Children don’t do what you say - but what you do.

But I’m realizing how much deeper it goes.

I’m dreaming of having kids one day. I’ve always had this dream. Children have so much energy, joy and love in them and I love how they are so curious about the world. They make me more curious and I find new ways of viewing things when I hang out with them.

Most (I want to say all, but sadly that’s not true) parents want their children to have it all, to follow their dreams and to feel happiness…But how many of them actually do it?

For me this is a hard realisation.

My initial goals in life what to get a good job, a nice apartment and a good guy, and I got all of that! But then I realized I wasn’t happier than before all that, and I really had believed that I would be.

Then I listen to advise “it's not the destination, it's the journey” and set up new goals so I could focus on the journey there. I did a swedish classic and founded Aimfor as examples. And sure I had a lot of fun doing that, and I felt alive. But this wasn’t happiness either.

I could keep setting up new goals and enjoy the highs I would get from feeling they are impossible and then eventually reaching them. But I know that this wasn’t going to get me there either.

Therefore I set as one of the intentions of this journey to find happiness within. Because after all, if I cannot find it, how can I teach my future children what it is.

During this trip I’ve spent a lot of time trying to understand myself and the world, through plant medicine, hypnosis, different types of healing and simple journaling, meditation and reflection.

As part of this I’ve started to remember people, events and situations that I had forgotten about. Situations that are so clear when I remember them that I don’t understand how its possible that I had forgotten them.

And as I get in contact with younger and younger versions of me I realize I have it all wrong. Children already know all about happiness, and it’s us who have forgotten.

We have forgotten that happiness exist in presence, in play, in connection and in exploration.

But what do we do? We plan, we work, we disconnect and we stop learning. No wonder we have forgotten how to do it. Are we teaching our children to forget their joy by teaching them how to fit in, to follow the rules, how you should behave, how to work?

We should instead aim to be more like them - and embraise their curiosity, their connection to their feelings and their presence.

“You can only be joyful when your heart is pure and naive.”

Image of my brothers daughter, ok for me to use, but not for you.